Listen to the Silence

Change is inevitable. It can be good or bad depending on your perception of it. If you are the kind of person who must have stability and certainty in all that you do, you may not deal with change well. On the contrary, if you enjoy varied experiences and go with the flow into the unknown, then you are likely to embrace change and all it has to offer.

Truth is we have very little control over things we manage in our lives. For instance, we can manage the time we leave for work, but we cannot manage traffic delays that result in late arrivals; we can manage our health but we cannot manage whether we will be stricken with a hereditary illness; we can manage who we vote for in an election year, but we cannot manage the outcome of who wins the election. And so on.

I am a creature of habit and sometimes change can be difficult for me—I have a knee-jerk reaction to it. When I have a tough time dealing with change, I ask myself questions. What is the worst thing that could happen? What can I expect to gain? What can I manage? What is the growth opportunity from this experience? The answer is always the same: my sense of losing control of a situation is threatened, causing feelings of discomfort and uncertainty.

Do you ever feel anxious, like you are losing control or have lost control of a situation when change is upon you? If so, do not fret. Discomfort can incite you to think creatively, force you to become resourceful and propel you to accomplish things in ways you have never imagined. And sometimes you discover that change is not so dreadful after all.

Change is inevitable and constant. The best thing we can do to manage it is be flexible enough to deal with this certainty.

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